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: HONOUR THE MARRIAGE BED

Text: Hebrews 13:4.

Memory Verse: 1 Corinthians 7:4: The husband should fulfil his marital duty to his wife and likewise the wife to the husband.

Objective: To lead each learner to be faithful in her home.

Introduction
One woman, who was preparing to get married, received the following advice from her mother: “Love your husband and close your eyes, if you see any woman having an affair with your husband.” As young as this woman was, she wanted to obey her mother steadfastly. In her home, after the first two months, she started seeing women with her husband. They would go out and drink, and play around. That woman persevered, but one day she ran out of patience. So she decided to get a boyfriend to pay back what her husband was doing. The truth is that that woman did not understand many things.

The question is this: How can a woman honor her marriage bed? How can a woman succeed in keeping her marriage bed pure? I believe to be successful; one must understand God’s purpose for marriage.

Discussion

1. The Purpose of Marriage.
Many women are not married. Have you ever asked yourself why you are married? Some women think they are married because of many reasons. People say, “I am married because I am intelligent.” Others say, I am married because I am beautiful.” Other women think that they are married because of their good backgrounds or because they have been faithful.

When you fail to see that God has blessed you by grace, and not because of any of your efforts, you may fail to honour God. Let us see God’s purpose in marriage. Colossians 3:17 says, “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the father through him.” When we begin to see that we need to do all for the glory of God, many things would not affect us. Jesus Christ would help us handle the big and small issues that may come up.

God created human beings to have sex for fellowship. Each member of the family must work hard to maintain the marriage God started. Martin Luther said, “Let the wife make the husband glad to come home and let him make her sorry to see him leave.” This means that the man must love the wife as God loved the church (Eph. 5:25, 32). The wife must submit to the husband as unto the Lord.

God’s purpose for marriage was for companionship, before procreation (for the family to have children). And children come when husbands and wives have sex. The Bible tells us that sex is a gift from God. And, sex, like any other gift can become something destructive and twisted when we misuse it. Sex is a gift from God (Gen. 1:28). Sex is an expression of love and unity between the husband and wife. The sexual relationship should be a sign of commitment and love – the kind of commitment that is part of the marriage vows of two people to each other. The Bible says enjoy the wife of your youth (Eccl. 9:9). We are asked by our God to have sex for God’s glory, for enjoyment, and for procreation. How then can we keep our homes in a way that we will enjoy our marriages?

2. How to Enjoy Our Husbands by Making Life Easy.
The King of the universe has called us to build our homes. God is a builder. How does He build families, and what does He use? When we understand how God builds, we would honour one another. Let us see things with which we can build our families.

Words build homes, and words also break homes. Isaiah 50:4 says, “The Lord GOD has given me the tongue of those who are taught, that I may know how to sustain with a word him who is weary.” When you speak love, phone love, and talk love, it builds your home.

One thing that many have forgotten is that sex does not start in bed. It starts with what you tell your partner in the morning and within the day. The love of God in people’s hearts would enable them say words that can build the home. “A quarrelsome wife is like constant dripping on a rainy day” (Prov. 27:15). Quarrelling can affect your bed. Imagine yourself in a house dripping. Such a home becomes uncomfortable. Let love keep growing in your home.

Secondly, build a home with forgiveness. When the husband and wife forgive each other, they are building on God’s foundation. A happy marriage depends on the present, not the past. Many marriages are endangered by past problems that have not been forgiven. Until we come to Christ, all our lives are sinful and wrong. God has provided us salvation that covers and removes all our sins, and brings to being a new creation out of a sinful and sinning one. “Forgive as God has forgiven you” (Matt. 6:12, 14). Please, how many of us have ever gone to bed with angry husbands? How was it? Was it lively?

3. The Consequences of Dishonouring Our Beds.
God would judge the adulterers. God did not make a mistake when He gave this command, “You shall NOT commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14). God loves us and that is why He restricts us; it is not to make us unhappy. God commands that there should not be any hint of sexual immorality amongst Christians.
When people break Gods commandment and begin to do as their hearts tell them to do, it affects them socially, physically, spiritually. In this way many are sick, because they disobey God. And, many are dying because of disobedience.

What are the things that may push you to dishonour your bed? Is it because you feel your husband is barren? Is it because you need money? Is it because you were taught to revenge? Is it because your husband has cheated on you? God gave you your husband, and vengeance belongs to Him (God) alone. Turn to Jesus if you struggle with any of the issues we have raised. God has an answer.

Application
Don’t refuse your husband because your body is not your own (1 Cor. 7:4-5). May God help you to love and forgive? May God make you to be the light, especially to your husband amidst all the torments you are going through?

Song: Jesus is the Answer for the world today, above him there is no other Jesus is the way.