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VICTORY IN MARRIAGE

Text: I Corinthian 13:4-8

Objective: To lead each learner to make her marriage home a good example for young people to follow.

Memory Verse: I Corinthian 13:7: “It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Introduction
Marriage is God’s plan. He made Man male and female, and ordained marriage as the indispensable condition of the continuance of the race (Gen 1:27, 28). Marriage is a permanent relation (Matt 19:6). The Creator has indicated the permanence of marriage relation by making the growth of love between husband and wife over the years to be a natural process. The reason for this is that so much good comes from marriage. It is the foundation of our society and the first institution established by God. What happens in our marriages usually filters down to the rest of our lives and it greatly influences our children.

Victory in marriage can be only in a home where there is genuine love, kindness
(I Cor. 13:4), understanding, good planning, etc. That is a home where love exists between husband and wife, and between parents and children. It is a home where each partner accepts and corrects the weaknesses of the other in love.

Discussion

1. Genuine love is ready to bear suffering for long:
a).  It is slow to lose patience. It does not demonstrate irritation or reflect on anger, or have a                 quick temper.
b).   It is kind. It looks for a way of being constructive. It is actively creative. It is able to recognize                 needs. It discovers successful methods of improving or contributing to the others’ lives.
c).   Genuine love has good manners. Has respect for others, which results in a set of Christ-                     centered standards.
d).  Genuine love rejoices in the truth. It is glad with all godly men when truth prevails. It is              active in fellowship with dedicated Christians. And it is occupied with spiritual things.
e).  Genuine love knows no end to its trust. It believes in the person and the person’s worth                 without question. It has no reason to doubt the truth expressed by another person.
f).   Genuine love is never tired. It is able to endure all obstacles and even love in the face of            hatred. In order to ensure that victory, marriage is properly planned, developed, and                 maintained. Women should understand that marriages are constantly under attack from                the Devil. Once we say “I do”, the Devil sets all types of traps to tear the marriage apart.

2. Women should not Do the Following.
a).   Have primary concern for personal sexual appetites, but concern for the needs of their                  husbands.
b).   Seek to make an impression or create an image for personal gain.
c).   Be easily provoked but take time to respond to acts of provocation.
d).   Keep account of wrongs. D not review wrongs which have been forgiven.

3. Women must Be Prepared.
e To search out and destroy every false idea they have accepted from Satan and build up                    “towers of truth” by reading, memorizing and meditating on the Scriptures.
e  To communicate with one another and settle matters before long.

4. How to Get More from Marriage.
Usually in marriage, there is something women expect or want to get from their husbands in the relationship. The Bible says in order to receive, you have to give.
“Give and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you” (Luke 6:38). If you want love, you must first give love. If you want love or kind remarks, you must give these first.

Women, always think about that day you first made your mind to live for better or for worse. And then the day you formally and publicly made known to all people, your union of husband and wife. Is there something that you may need from your husband? Is there something also that your husband may need from you? Try and give what is needed and what you expect will eventually be given back to you. That is exactly what God expects you to do in order for you to have victory in marriage.

Application
Marriage can be permanent when you allow your home to be controlled by Jesus Christ. He has the authority to do it for you. May this lesson touch the minds and hearts of the women who are here today to act accordingly.
Questions for discussion in the group
1.  What is marriage?
2.  Who established marriage?
3.  How can you get victory in marriage?
4.  What will you do if at some time your marriage is not the best?